Sleeping with a Married Man: The Emotional Toll

You’re the woman who gets the best of him while he robs his wife of it. He laughs the loudest when he’s with you. He is his most charming, most intelligent, most dashing self. You’re the woman who gets the best of him while he robs his wife of it. He laughs the loudest when he’s with you. He is his most charming, most intelligent, most dashing self. You’re sleeping with a married man , and it seems like you’ve pulled the longest straw in this deal. You seem to be happily using up all of his best qualities at the precise moment that the family he’s left at home wonders where the dad and husband they once knew has gone.


The truly sad part of it all is that once the laughter subsides and the sweat has been showered off, there is an emptiness that resides deep down in your heart that doesn’t seem to go away. It nags at you in the middle of another lonely night when he’s gathered up his belongings and left you alone… again. You know that you’re falling in love with him, despite what you told yourself when this all began.


1. Personal Compromise: Almost every mistress will tell you that she never thought she would see herself in this strange position. She’ll tell you that this type of behavior goes against everything she’s ever believed in. When you come to that place inside yourself where you accept that this relationship is going to go further than it should, something clicks. A switch gets thrown that can’t be reset until the relationship has played itself out. There is a definite moment inside each woman who finds herself caught up in her own emotions despite the illicit nature of the affair when she makes a decision, and that decision compromises her own morals and values. The effects of this decision are felt long after the relationship is over.


2. Confusion: Once you’re in the midst of the affair, the overarching emotion that is felt is utter confusion. How did you get to this place? What is this strange power that this man suddenly holds over you? Why did you get into this predicament in the first place? Does he really love you, or is it all about sex and the naughty excitement? Are all of your friends and family right, or is this the man you’ve been looking for all along? The befuddlement that overtakes you is tremendous, and it will cause you to question yourself continuously.


3. Betrayal: Ultimately, the Other Woman will usually end up feeling used and betrayed. Although she may have been promised the moon and the stars, she will most likely end up finding herself face down in the dirt at the end of the relationship. The man of her dreams will become the man of her nightmares when he opts to stay with his family and go against all of the vows he made to his mistress during their heated rendezvous. The divorce she’s been waiting for all along never comes, and she’s left with nothing but a broken heart and shattered dreams.


Too often society finds it easier to judge women who sleep with married men without taking any time to consider the emotional turmoil that these women inevitably go through. Some will say that it is self-inflicted and therefore, deserved. That still doesn’t change the fact that the Other Woman suffers deeply when she allows herself to get wrapped up in such a controversial relationship. Read more about what you can do to deal with your emotional pain in "He Loves Me More, Even Though He's Still Married to HER!" to get a better understanding of what to do if you find yourself sleeping with a married man.

3 Ways to Make Sure You Don't End Up Like Kobe Bryant or Tiger Woods

If you went by the exposure that the media has given them lately, you would think that young Black sports stars invented cheating! The past few months have found Tiger Woods’ and his wife Elin Nordegren’s business all over the news, media, and the internet. His affairs with the tell-all Rachel Uchitel, Jamie Grubbs and her voicemails, and all the other countless women that have conveniently come out of the woodwork are splashed all over everything.


It hasn’t been that long ago that Kobe Bryant and his wife Vanessa endured a public scandal when Katelyn Faber accused him of raping her in his hotel room in Colorado. Even though Katelyn declined to testify in the trial and ended up settling out of court, he has still remained vilified by many.


Being a man in a society that is so quick to judge is no walk in the park! It is a well-known fact that women cheat just as much as men do, but the consensus is that the fairer sex is better at hiding their indiscretions. So, what can you do to make sure you don’t end up being run down by your wife with a golf club?


Step One: Keep Your Cell Phone Locked. If your wife or girlfriend asks why you feel the need to keep it locked, turn around and ask her why she feels the need to snoop around on your phone. She will probably say, “What do you have to hide?” You should respond with, “Why are you so insecure?” Women tend to feel entitled to all of your personal information once they’ve started sleeping with you. You have to make it clear that you don’t believe in full disclosure if you know that you are stepping out on her.

Step Two: Everyone Except the Main One Should Be in the Know. The problem that many men run into is sleeping with more than two women at a time. When you start having two, three, or more mistresses, you will need to make sure that everyone is on the same page. Each of the people you are seeing should know who your main woman is, and that they are not the only one in your life. Trying to hide your number one woman from each of your mistresses is just too much drama. You’re asking to be caught!

Step Three: Make Sure Mama Stays Happy. The number one thing that women know how to do that men have not grasped yet is making sure that their number one love stays happy, even if they are cheating. This is the biggest mistake men make. If you devote your time and energy into making your wife or girlfriend happy at home, she won’t bother worrying about checking up behind you all the time. What that means for each woman will differ. Does she want you to clean the house every once in awhile? Should you cook dinner for her? Is she impressed by material possessions? Do what you have to do to keep a smile on your face, and you can have whatever you want!

If Tiger Woods or Kobe Bryant would have followed these three major laws for keeping themselves out of hot water, the headlines may have read something far different. No matter what you choose to do, remember to always treat the people that you love with respect. Communication is the key. Honesty is better than deception, but if your situation is complicated, at least be smart about what you do.


When a mistress turns on you, you can be left wondering what the hell happened! All of a sudden, it seems like she changes her mind about what she wants, and it becomes her mission to destroy your world. If you want to know what she’s thinking before she ruins your life, click the following link: The Other Woman Dating a Married Man.

5 Highly Effective Ways to Determine if You Are Dating a Married Man

You’re a good woman. You have so much to offer a man that you sometimes have to wonder if you’re over-qualified for the position of being someone’s girlfriend, and eventually, his wife. There may be someone in your life right now that has been causing you to question yourself. If you have begun to wonder why your new love interest is acting so strangely, you may just be dating a married man without knowing it! Here are five ways that you can play detective and find out the real deal behind your man and his sneaky ways.

1. He says that he doesn’t have a home phone. Your new boyfriend has given you his cell phone number, but he tells you that he doesn’t have a home telephone. “It just makes sense,” he says, “I’m never home anyway.” This is a clever way of keeping you from being able to call his house, pinpoint his exact whereabouts at any given time, or do any snooping that will give you his real address by doing a reverse search of the phone number.

2. You can only call him at certain times. He has to wake up early the next morning for work, so you shouldn’t call him after eight o’clock at night. It will only disturb his sleep, and he’s finicky about that. They don’t allow him to receive phone calls at his place of employment, so you should let him call you when he gets free for lunch. In reality, keeping your phone calls at bay ensures that his wife won’t accidentally pick up the phone or glance at the name and number of the caller should you choose to ring him up unexpectedly.

3. He doesn’t let you visit his house. Here’s a tricky one. Of course, not being permitted to see where he lives is a huge red flag, but you should also beware if you are allowed to visit ‘his place’, which he shares with a male ‘roommate’. This is probably his best friend who is letting him pretend to live there whenever he is with you, so that you won’t discover his real four-bedroom ranch style home in the suburbs. Think about whether you have ever seen him change clothes in this place that he brings you to. Does he have his stuff there, or does he tell you that he keeps it somewhere else?

4. He cuts dates short. When a man does his best Cinderella impersonation, acting as though his car will turn into a pumpkin if he stays out with you too late, you have to look at him a bit sideways. Why is it that your dates never extend into the late nights? Could it be that there is a woman watching the clock miles away, waiting for her husband to warm her bed?

5. He looks nervous when he gets calls on his cell phone while he is with you. It never fails. A married man who is attempting to hide his infidelities will always get a call from his wife at some point while he is with you. He may try to play it off – trying to look nonchalant as he ignores it – while he thinks of a clever way to excuse himself to call her back. If your man takes plenty of private calls out of earshot from you, claiming that they are from ‘work’, you just might be dating someone’s betrothed!

Above all else, never second-guess a woman’s intuition. If you are wondering if your new lover is married, the truth is that he probably is. Stay observant, and once you know for sure – run for the hills! That is a drama that you don’t want to star in. There is someone out there who is better worthy of your precious time. If you do find yourself in a relationship with a married man, you will want to know what to do if you can't seem to let him go. Read "He Loves Me More, Even Though He's Still Married to Her!", available at Sleeping with a Married Man!