You’re the woman who gets the best of him while he robs his wife of it. He laughs the loudest when he’s with you. He is his most charming, most intelligent, most dashing self. You’re the woman who gets the best of him while he robs his wife of it. He laughs the loudest when he’s with you. He is his most charming, most intelligent, most dashing self. You’re sleeping with a married man , and it seems like you’ve pulled the longest straw in this deal. You seem to be happily using up all of his best qualities at the precise moment that the family he’s left at home wonders where the dad and husband they once knew has gone.
The truly sad part of it all is that once the laughter subsides and the sweat has been showered off, there is an emptiness that resides deep down in your heart that doesn’t seem to go away. It nags at you in the middle of another lonely night when he’s gathered up his belongings and left you alone… again. You know that you’re falling in love with him, despite what you told yourself when this all began.
1. Personal Compromise: Almost every mistress will tell you that she never thought she would see herself in this strange position. She’ll tell you that this type of behavior goes against everything she’s ever believed in. When you come to that place inside yourself where you accept that this relationship is going to go further than it should, something clicks. A switch gets thrown that can’t be reset until the relationship has played itself out. There is a definite moment inside each woman who finds herself caught up in her own emotions despite the illicit nature of the affair when she makes a decision, and that decision compromises her own morals and values. The effects of this decision are felt long after the relationship is over.
2. Confusion: Once you’re in the midst of the affair, the overarching emotion that is felt is utter confusion. How did you get to this place? What is this strange power that this man suddenly holds over you? Why did you get into this predicament in the first place? Does he really love you, or is it all about sex and the naughty excitement? Are all of your friends and family right, or is this the man you’ve been looking for all along? The befuddlement that overtakes you is tremendous, and it will cause you to question yourself continuously.
3. Betrayal: Ultimately, the Other Woman will usually end up feeling used and betrayed. Although she may have been promised the moon and the stars, she will most likely end up finding herself face down in the dirt at the end of the relationship. The man of her dreams will become the man of her nightmares when he opts to stay with his family and go against all of the vows he made to his mistress during their heated rendezvous. The divorce she’s been waiting for all along never comes, and she’s left with nothing but a broken heart and shattered dreams.
Too often society finds it easier to judge women who sleep with married men without taking any time to consider the emotional turmoil that these women inevitably go through. Some will say that it is self-inflicted and therefore, deserved. That still doesn’t change the fact that the Other Woman suffers deeply when she allows herself to get wrapped up in such a controversial relationship. Read more about what you can do to deal with your emotional pain in "He Loves Me More, Even Though He's Still Married to HER!" to get a better understanding of what to do if you find yourself sleeping with a married man.
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